Any time you police someone else’s gender, whether you are cis or trans*, by:
- saying someone isn’t really transgender
- saying someone must be transgender
- saying that someone’s gender isn’t real
- telling someone how they must act or present themselves to “be real”
- saying that someone isn’t the gender that they tell you they are
you are buying into and supporting the system that oppresses all trans* and gender non-conforming people.
Please stop doing that.