moderation change.

Alright bloglings.

you haven’t disappointed me yet. I’m no longer auto-modding comments. If you see something that needs to be called out, do it. I’ll edit it like usual when I check in. I’m doing this to facilitate discussion.

Don’t fuck this up.


Discussion posts- Meta

Hello, bloglings.

I’m going to start a series of discussion posts. They will be collected under The discussion posts page. I thought I’d lay out my reasoning, and put down some ground rules.

There are some things I want to get opinions on, and I want people with lived experiences to talk about. I lack a lot of knowledge in certain areas due to my upbringing. References are great, but they won’t give you feedback like real live people do. And there are other things that are considered taboo by cultural standards, that I wish to discuss. Remember there is a difference between harm and offense.  I have other thoughts and reasons, but this is all that I’m able to articulate at this point.

Ok, Let’s lay down some:

ground rules

  • No matter how old  a discussion is, feel free to join in. I’m always listening.
  • I want your feedback.
  • Be respectful, this isn’t the place for mocking people. 
  • Ignorance and questions are OK. Harm is not.
  • No Slurs.
  • If you are going to talk about how your belief system affects a certain issue for yourself, be descriptive, not prescriptive.
    • Example: “My belief structure enforces monogamy, so even though I lean towards polyamory, I’m monogamous.” is OK. “People in open relationships are going to hell.” is not.
  • Stay on topic as much as possible. derailments will be moved to another post. Intentional derailments will be met with extreme prejudice. Yes I am the final arbiter there. This is MY space.
  • These rules might be adapted with time and needs of the blog, and apply strictly to discussion posts only. Otherwise my normal comment policy applies.

upcoming posts

  • monogamy & non-monogamy
  • kink & fetishes

That’s all for now, See y’all in the comments.

Please take note

I’ve had a very bad day. Several posts are coming. I’m pissed off and extremely disphoric at the moment. If you make my day worse, your comment will be replaced with My Little Pony.

Yes, I know that the show can be anti-skepticism, and that the fan base is toxic. I still like it. If you don’t, I don’t particularly care. If you want to make an issue of it, Fuck Off, and your comment will be replaced.

This is what I do when commenters piss me off.

Hello various denizens of my blog, this is your blog mistress, Emily, with a public service announcement. Do not piss me off. This is what happens:

Disagreement is fine, argumentum ad NOMiNOM is not.

Do not be a condescending jackass.

If you apologize for something, you better actually apologize and not give a non-apology.

I am the goddess of this blog, and I can just as easily be Sekhmet as Bastet.


We now return you to your regularly scheduled programming.

You can call me Em.

This is a place to collect my thoughts. I am a pansexual atheist trans women. Everyone knows that I am an atheist. Only two friends know that I am bisexual. No one except the internet knows that I’m trans. The closet sucks. Dysphoria sucks. Spam, sexism, cissexism, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, misogyny, racism, trans-mysogyny, opositional sexism, ableism, and hate speech will not be tolerated. Curse like a sailor if you want, but be respectful to people. Don’t ask for pics. And I will drop the ban-hammer on anyone I like. I am the goddess of this blog, and if you displease me, prepare to be smited.