Start spreading the news.

I’m moving to San Fransisco/the Bay Area in August!!!

The place I’m living is getting more and more unsafe. I need to leave soon. And I have friends and loved ones in the Bay. But moving is very expensive. I can’t rely on my parents to help me out here. I’m going to come out to them in mid-July, and they may just disown me. So I need those first month expenses covered.

Everyone who donates will finally find out where I live, and what I look like.

If we reach the $1500 mark, I will post the recipe that made my girlfriend say that I beat out all the best restaurants in San Francisco that we had eaten at while I was there.

I’ll take suggestions for the $2000 mark, and the $3000 goal.

spread this as far around as you can please!

Emily <3



So, I wanted to make this explicit. Any time I talk about social justice issues, I’m relying on the work of thousands of people who came before me. Hundreds that I’ve read recently. None of my work in that area is completely original. I put my spin on it, or talk about my personal experiences with it, but when it comes right down to it, if it wasn’t for others I wouldn’t be able to articulate it. So with that in mind, I will soon be making an influences page. I don’t have the  time/energy right now, and I’ll probably forget more than one person, but yeah, it needs to be done. And please don’t take that page as recommendations. I strongly disagree with some of the people I’ve been influenced by.


clarification: all my art/poetry/recipes are my own

Allow me to reintroduce myself.

it seems like I passed the 50 follower mark, so it seems like now would be a good time to tell y’all a little about who I am.

My name is Emily Jane [last name removed for privacy]. But you can call me Em, or Emily.

I like anime. Not the mainstream stuff that most people know, but things that are a little more off the radar. Some examples are

  • xxxHolic
  • Dusk Maiden of Amnesia
  • Bamboo Blade,
  • B Gata H Kei Yamada’s First Time
  • [C] Control
  • Destiny of the Shrine Maiden
  • FLCL
  • Girls und Panzer -Currently Watching
  • His and Her circumstances
  • Neuro
  • Noir
  • Oreimo
  • Rideback
  • Read or Die, and R.O.D. the TV
  • Rumbling Hearts: this one will break your heart and make you cry
  • Spice and Wolf
  • Shiki
  • Un-Go

just to name a few. So, yeah, a lot of dramas, yuri, Seinen, Josei, with a little bit of shojo thrown in.

I like My little pony, Friendship is magic. I never lost My love of cartoons. Power Puff girls for life.

Sometimes I sketch. I’m not great at it though. I don’t do it often enough to improve.

I listen to a little bit of everything, music wise. Lately I’ve been on a Traditional Celtic and Celtic rock kick. I like a little bit of country, though a lot of it is shit. I listen to rap from all over the world. Japanese rap is pretty good, even if I don’t know what they’re saying. Also Jay-z kick’s ass. Early Snoop Dogg is good, but after that third album, he just didn’t do it for me anymore. Oh, and you can’t forget the classics like Run DMC. I haven’t listened to any new rap from the U.S. in about 7 years.  I grew up listening to Zydeco, Cajun, Creole, and Swamp pop music, and still love it today. Go check out Haydley J. Castille. I like a little Funk, Punk, and “Techno” but still listen to that good old classic rock and soul music. Everything from the Everly Brothers to the Rolling Stones, Led Zeppelin to Country Joe and the Fish, The four tops, the temptations, Marvin Gaye, Arethra Frankilin and many more. And I love Bossa Nova, Samba, and specifically Antonio Carlos Jobim. And You just can’t go wrong with Crooners like Frank Sinatra, Bing Crosby, and many others. I also love the Blues.

Other Musicians of note:

  • Bif Naked
  • T.A.T.U.
  • Melissa Ethridge
  • Eric Whitacre
  • Die Antwoord
  • Zachary Richard
  • Beausoliel
  • DJ Icee

Content Warning: Much of the Music I like has problematic elements in it. Country music is very misogynistic.

Oh yeah, and all the music that Elvis did covers of was done better by the original artists. So Fuck Elvis.

I used to play guitar, but gave it up. That’s kind of why I have so much exposure to different types of music.

I’m Bi/Pan/Non-mono sexual, that doesn’t mean I’m attracted to you. I’m actually quite picky.

I’m a trans woman. I’m taking steps towards transitioning. I bought my first girl Jeans today. Yay. :D I’m wearing them now. And make-up is fucking AWESOME.

I’m an atheist. This isn’t the post to debate me on this subject, and if you do, Your comment will be edited, to hilarious effect. Don’t try me. There are other posts for that.

I’m a cook. NO, not a home cook. A fucking Professional. {I use profanity a lot. If you don’t like, fuck off and go somewhere else.(I’m also confrontational on this blog but not in real life.[Enough of these asides for ya? :p ])} I hope to run a restaurant one day. But until then I’ll just be a broke working class girl. I pass for middle class though.

I’m twenty-nine years old. Fucking testosterone. :(

I went to Catholic School and was raised Catholic. Better education than the public school system around here, but it is one of the many reasons I’m so fucked up. “Sex-ed, what is this sex-ed thing you speak of? No reason to have sex until after you’re married, and you’re going to hell just for thinking about it.”

I’m an insomniac. I often don’t get to sleep until 6 or seven in the A.M.  That’s why you lovely folks usually get posts at four or five in the mourning.

I live in the goddamn south. That’s the southeastern U.S. for all y’all non USAians. Fuck this entire region. And for those of you that don’t know, Y’all is the plural of You.

Oh yeah, I’m a huge Green Arrow fan. But I don’t read the new 52.

I read a lot. Fiction, Non-Fiction, doesn’t really matter as long as it’s interesting.

So, now that you know a little more about me, Introduce yourselves. I’m expecting the regulars to comment here. I’ll be disappointed if you don’t.

My name

I’ve figured out my full name. I won’t share it here for privacy reasons. I share some pretty intense stuff here, and I plan to eventually legally change my name, so I don’t want business contacts seeing this. I will say this. Not having a chosen middle name was bothering me, more than I like to admit. I’m glad I settled on it. So my name will be Emily {chosen middle name} {Given last name}. I have no intention to change my last name. I like my last name. It fits with my chosen name. I am proud of my family. I want to retain a connection to my parents in my name. And, my family crest, including my last name is tattooed on my body. I love that tattoo. I love my family crest. Y’all can call me either Emily or Em for short. I’m trying to decide on a pen name. Again, I’m going to continue to use Emily as my first name for all my writing, I just need a last name. I’m open to suggestions in the comments.

I’ve found my name.

An act of defiance to an indifferent world

My name is Emily,

And I exist.

Fuck you, World;

You may beat me,

You may keep me from becoming who I truly am,

You may make me lie to my family and friends,

You may make me pretend to be someone I’m not.

But for just this moment,


 I am real,

I exist,

and my name,

My name is Emily.

You can call me Em.

This is a place to collect my thoughts. I am a pansexual atheist trans women. Everyone knows that I am an atheist. Only two friends know that I am bisexual. No one except the internet knows that I’m trans. The closet sucks. Dysphoria sucks. Spam, sexism, cissexism, homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, misogyny, racism, trans-mysogyny, opositional sexism, ableism, and hate speech will not be tolerated. Curse like a sailor if you want, but be respectful to people. Don’t ask for pics. And I will drop the ban-hammer on anyone I like. I am the goddess of this blog, and if you displease me, prepare to be smited.